68 posts tagged “qotd”
Who would you most like to be stuck in an elevator with?
that horrible man i used to work for..
Least like?
...witnesses.
What three qualities do you look for in a partner?
Submitted by Tenor Bob
First, he's SMART. Bare minimum, he's at least as smart as i am, and i'm pretty fucking smart. But he's probably smarter. I don't want to get nitpicky and suggest he must be top of his class and have degrees etc. I know lots of smart people who cannot claim those things.. The key is KNOWING stuff... reading, watching, observing, critical thinking, even a tendency toward debate just for the sake of debate. Extra points if he's smart in things I'm not smart about, like how many teaspoons in a gallon, or what the conflict in the middle East is all about. In addition to a general smartypants, he's smart about 'things'. rational, sensible. Knows how to read a map. Logical about decisionmaking and good with money and priorities. Has a great memory, and lots of attention to detail. Smart. you know?
Second, he has PASSION. about me, about life, about SOMETHING. I don't care what it is, music, math, horror films.. as long as it's not racism or heroin, I'm on board. I want to be around someone who inspires me to throw myself into my own projects, to improve myself. I want to be around someone who gets really excited about something and is willing to take incredible risks to make incredible gains. I want someone who has wanted something so badly that it hurts, and who's not afraid to experience that kind of pain in pursuit of a goal. I want to be with someone who finds beauty and perfection is something just because it's sacred to him, and not because it's hip or simply available. I want someone who can say, 'i do this' or 'i am this', without shame or embarassment, and with conviction.
Third, he's STRONG .. of character. He knows himself and his strengths and limitations, and he won't let me or anyone bully him. He does what he believes no matter what anyone else thinks, or what's popular. He never goes with the crowd just because it's the crowd. He stands up to me, because sometimes i'm a little overbearing, without worrying about hurting my feelings. He's unique, and he won't give in easily to temptation (for example the throngs of women who are probably throwing themselves at him daily). he's okay with who he is, and who i am, and willing to defend us both. He's secure, and not jealous of people or circumstance, and not out to prove himself to anyone. He alone owns himself-- he's responsible for his actions, avoids whining, and is flexible enough to make changes when it's obvious they need to be made. He's in charge of his destiny.
Over the years I've come up with a dozen of these lists.. Only in the last couple years did I finally figure it out.. I can't have a relationship with someone I can't respect, for whatever (fair or unfair) reason I can't respect them. The above are good ways to get my respect. There are a couple others, but these would get someone in the door, if i were in the market for a new man, or even in the market for some new lifelong friends. That's not to say i can't have dumb friends, or weak friends.. but the best relationships I have are with people I admire deeply, people who make me want to become like them, and really whom i consider too good for me, if we're being honest. totally deserving of the pedestals I keep them on.
I should also point out that my boyfriend meets all of these criteria, and one other: He loves the crap out of me*. There's probably another question-of-the-day to come, about how you know when someone loves you. It's a different list, but he's done it, and keeps doing it.
*in spite of me.
If you could, which film would you un-watch or which book would you un-read?
Submitted by Kate.
battlefield earth. hands down.
If you had to go on a two-week vacation with any celebrity, who would you pick as your traveling companion and where would you go?
After a lot of thought, i'm gonna have to go with Pete Doherty and Amy Fucking Winehouse. Those cats know how to party.
If you had to write your autobiography in 6 words, what would you write?
Submitted by mitzie.
Does this make me look fat?
How many houses have you lived in? How is where you live now different from where you grew up?
i have no idea where or IF i went to first grade:
1) grandma/grandpa's trailer where i cut my foot on the sprinkler
2) house on pinchot across from amber and her brother quincy (kindergarten)
3) apt across from lady with scary kid i threw a brick at (2nd grade)
4) apt on hatcher near smitty's and the community center with god movies (3rd grade)
5) apt on vogel with the rooster and the schizo babysitter (4th-5th grade)
6) haunted house on 9th ave where they said some guy killed his wife and stuffed her in a washing machine (6th-middle of 9th grade)
7) dad's house on columbine where my roo laid on the diving board with me (middle of 9th-10th grade)
8) dad's house on 1st ave where we lived when i graduated (11th grade thru august 1996)
9) saguaro dorm, ASU .. i barely ever slept here (aug 1996 - jan 1997)
10) house in Ahwahtukee with my ex, and with Jonas and Kona-bing (jan 1997 thru july 1999)
11) apt in tempe where i managed to never meet any of my neighbors, ever (july 1999 thru may 2001)
12) apt in pleasanton, CA where i managed to never meet any of my neighbors, ever (may 2001 thru nov 2001)
13) apt in walnut creek where I ultimately went on a date with the guy next door who was british and missing a front tooth (nov 2001 thru june 2003)
14) flat in inner sunset, SF with the crackhead upstairs neighbors who landscaped the backyard and moved furniture instead of sleeping (june 2003 thru july 2004)
15) flat in inner richmond with the supercool neighbors, their kids, a fire pit and usually plenty of wine (july 2004 thru june 2005)
16) apt in oakland .. i lived in a turret-- roof access and the best view in the city. (june 2005 thru july 2007)
17) apt in nashville with love of my life (july 2007 to current)
How are you spending this Memorial Day? How will it differ from Memorial Days past?
I watched six episodes of House (season three). I had some fizzy water and some green beans. I suspect later I'll vacuum.
This is different because of course the last few years I've had wood floors.
What are your top five break-up songs?
Submitted by gt.
hmmm what does this say about me?
in no particular order:
You Oughtta Know - alanis morrissette
Miss Independent - Kelly Clarkson
Limp - Fiona Apple
Fighter - Christina Aguilera
Danny's song - Loggins and Messina
What compliment are you most often given?
Hmmm well it depends on whom you ask..
Swing dancers generally think 1) I'm a good dancer, and 2) I have a nice ass. There's a component of swing dancing which benefits from 'ass', so these go hand in hand. For dancing, the ass works out great, however in sitting or standing, bathing-suiting, or trying-to-look-cool-in-a-bar situations, my ass is generally better suited for a woman about 5 inches taller than I am. But you know, potato-potato.
Friends generally think I'm 'sweet', but this is because I send a lot of unexpected notes and cards that I'm thinking of them. I'm also pretty good with myspace comments. Strangely, a lot of these same friends would say I'm a 'fantastic bitch' (and they mean this in a nice way). I think it's because I have a knack for shittalking. And timing. It was all those rhetoric classes, I swear.
According to my parents, I'm the shit. I can do absolutely -no- wrong. I'm smart, beautiful, loving, a good driver, and a wonderful example for young people. I can also make a good gin and tonic. Witness:
From: Daddy's GF
Sent: Wednesday, February 27, 2008 9:13 AM
To: Daddy<Snip> Our Katrina is a wonderful and loving little girl. <Snip>
I don't make these things up, folks.
What's the biggest leap of faith you've ever had to take?
well.... let's see. could it be...
-quitting my job
-selling my shit
-packing my car
-moving to TN...
...for love?
haha by the way it's perfect. best thing i ever did.
